Becoming Spiritually Intelligent guides readers in the habits of a spiritually intelligent person, rooted in attachment theory, spiritual formation, and the science of spirituality. With the care of a pastor and the rigor of a researcher, Paul M. Burns gives us practical ways to cultivate our spiritual intelligence: the capacity to love God, ourselves, and others. Becoming a spiritually intelligent person means cultivating an attachment to God, learning self-differentiation, and nurturing empathy. In these pages, Burns helps us learn nine paths toward "lovingness, " such as the path of sensing God's nearness and the path of self-regulation. Understanding the human psyche-which derives from the Greek word for soul-can help us grow in Christ-like love. How do our earliest attachments shape our sense of who God is? How might stories from scripture resonate anew when we read them through the lens of attachment theory and brain science? Each chapter offers a spiritual intelligence practice, reflection questions, and prayer to help us translate emotional and spiritual insights into everyday life. Your most loving self is the you who feels secure. The bad news is that you can't love well when you're feeling threatened-and you can't rid yourself of such insecurity overnight. The good news is that, over time and with practice, you can discover deeper levels of attachment to God, self-differentiation, and empathy for others. Reminiscent of the work of Richard Foster, Ruth Haley Barton, and Ronald Rolheiser, Becoming Spiritually Intelligent will help you develop healthy attachments, grow into your most secure self, and love others in the way God loves"--