The book accomplishes 2 simple tasks. First, it identifies and discusses the primary barriers to collaboration. Second, it provides the methods for overcoming the barriers. The difference is that it takes the discussion deep into the system of deception, self-deception, role and identity confusion, guilt, shame, and adult development in response to the Parental Obligation. We donÕt know ourselves or focus on what we think are negatives about ourselves (shame). We donÕt trust ourselves (suppression). We donÕt know the other (role confusion). We donÕt trust the other (isolation). We are a bunch of islands attempting to convince ourselves that we are Òfamily, Ó and therefore ÒfamilyÓ has come to mean something less than people who are willing to give their all to establish your success.