Are we born with our behaviors, or do we learn them? Do our stories start at birth, or are they
crafted throughout our life experiences? Can we actually change our beliefs as an adult or is the
adage "people don't change" true?


"If people get to know the real me, they leave."
"If I want to create change, I must create chaos and crisis first."
"I am not worthy, and therefore things will always end up falling apart."


Sound familiar?


AnnMarie Santamarina, a connection coach with clients all over the world, carried these stories
of abandonment and not belonging well into her forties. These beliefs kept her tethered to a
certain course in life and reinforced the patterns she learned and perpetuated. After living with
a victim mentality for years-blaming others and existing only in survival mode-AnnMarie
knew something needed to change. But it didn't take a big life disruption for AnnMarie to
change her course, she began to implement small, subtle adjustments to reclaim her power.
Adoption, betrayal, rejection, and denial are all critical themes in AnnMarie's story. By replacing
negative thoughts with affirmative beliefs, today she has fully awakened to her own dreams
and life purpose. Throughout her personal and powerful memoir, AnnMarie shares her
vulnerability and how she found the courage to flip the script of her life, and how readers can
do the same.