Unconscious relationship patterns from the past often sabotage our love life in the present. How helpful it would be to recognize these "programs" early on and thus save couples a lot of suffering in relationships with partners whose patterns do not match ours at all. But often we recognize the truth much too late - sometimes only after many years of marriage.

Conflicts usually arise in childhood and "fire" from the subconscious to make life difficult for us today.
This relationship book is about those unrecognized patterns that trigger a "dance" of attraction and repulsion. A dance that never leads to a happy ending for couples and yet we dance it again and again in an endless loop. The book provides practical solutions and actionable advice for dating, committed relationship and marriage.

The book is a guide to recognizing and dissolving unconscious programs and a very personal self-help book by the author, who also lets us share his own story.